
“The Kids Are All Right” is a movie that echoes the complicated nature of real life relationships and marriage. There is no winner, no clear protagonist, and no beginning, just history. We jump into the family consisting of Nic, a perfectionist doctor who deals with stress by drinking wine; her wife Jules, who is more free spirited; Joni, who is quiet but smart and off to college in the fall; and Laser (yes the ridiculous name is acknowledged in the movie) who is 15 and acts like it. Those people make up the family that is for the most part happy, but deep down has serious problems waiting to surface. In other words, the problems were there and not directly caused by the future events that make up the movie’s main plot.
And that main plot is this: Laser and Joni, curious about their sperm-donor, contact him and find that he is a “cool” guy, besides being kind of self-involved. He’s a bachelor with a successful organic restaurant who drives a motorcycle; very appealing. The kids like spending time with him; but meanwhile Nic is panicking because she doesn’t want to be sharing her own time with her kids with him. Jules is warmer toward him than Nic, and eventually (SPOILER ALERT UNTIL THE END OF THIS PARAGRAPH, if you haven’t seen the trailer) they begin an affair.
Because of this drastic change in family dynamic, the strings holding it together begin to unravel faster and faster, and that’s where this movie really starts to outshine others of its kind. There’s always that typical family story of drama ending with a big tearful
group hug. This is not that kind of movie. The characters each are so well acted and so well written that they become very real, and you get completely emotionally invested in them. It’s so hard to pick sides when you’re watching, because you feel like you’re not sure who to believe. We the audience don’t know exactly the way each character has always been for that family because only they know their history, so I felt like I couldn’t judge them based on their actions. That’s how realistic these characters are; the actors gave them a history that we weren’t there to know or see, that affected the actions and reactions we did see. That is so unusual in movies; normally we are given a beginning, middle, and end, but here we are given a middle and then more middle.
This unusual way of making a movie out of middles works purely because of how good the performances are. There is no one in this movie who didn’t belong there. The adults were particularly good. Annette Bening had one of the most difficult characters; Nic’s perfectionist attitude so often comes off as annoying in movies, and here it did but not consistently,
so her character remained likeable and relatable. Julianne Moore had an equally difficult character and again was able to keep Jules from straying across the line of becoming the antagonist. Mark Ruffalo as Paul the sperm donor astounded me. I’m not usually impressed with Mark Ruffalo, but here he was brilliant. It was so hard to nail down his character; I had the same trouble as the other characters did. Which is of course the point. The kids too were fully written and well acted. Mia Wasikowska (who was Alice in the recent Alice in Wonderland) let her character grow with the events that took place, but I felt like I could’ve used more from her. Josh Hutcherson as Laser surprised me at how good his acting has gotten, to the point where I wish he had been given more to do.
I felt towards the end that it could have been about 15-20 minutes longer. There was a jump at the end that felt too far to advance the plot and timeline within it, and I just wanted to see each character get more screen time. They each seemed so real that I wanted to know more about them and their history together. The ending is satisfyingly ambiguous, so that it matched the unobvious beginning. This is a character driven movie that was different from almost any I’ve seen, for the fact that it is so character driven.
Let’s address the fact that this movie obviously features a gay relationship: In some movies having a gay couple can be a gimmick, or can seem forced; here it seems very naturally played,
which adds to the believability of it all. This to me seemed like a triumph that equaled the brilliance of the acting. It is very difficult to sell a movie that features a gay couple, and this one in particular covers many of the issues that are going on around us right now.. Gay marriage, adoption rights, it’s all happening now, and here is a movie that doesn’t use that as a gimmick or a selling point. It doesn’t preach gay rights, but it doesn’t need to; it’s all right there for those who want to see it. I’d highly recommend it if you do.
My Londonderry NH net rating, 3 1/2 seeds.
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